Should I tell him?

My husband has stopped sharing a lot of things with me just after he started having his affairs.Though he earns 3 times as much as me he has borrowed lots of money off me and promised to pay me back in time to pay my bills he never has.Now that I am in a bit of debt (due to lending and not being paid back) he is questioninig me about what I do with my money.My first instinct was to tell him paying bills that I could not pay after lending him and not getting any back)but as usual I did not.He again with everything else with me became highly critical and started swearing and as usual I just kept my mouth shut.

Should I tell him?cash loan

Show him the door and make him walk............

You deserve better, and I think you know it

Respect and look after yourself, it doesn%26#039;t sound like he does.

Good Luck

Should I tell him?

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Get rid now.|||he is taking you for a mug!!!

fvcking stand up to him!!! DO NOT let him walk over you!!!!

oh and yes you bloody should tell him and say you weant the money back! the selfish prick!!!

sorry but he dont sound good!

affairs!

earns loads of money but still takes yours!

then has a go at you when you get in debt for giving him bloody money!!!

what a wanker!! i would seriously think of my future with this %26quot;man%26quot;|||Tell the deadbeat to pay you back.......|||Run away ASAP!!!|||First off... stop lending him $$$!!! Pay your bills, do something for you ....oh yeah...leave his cheating butt.

Being married and having affairs do not mix.

Do yourself a favor and get on with your life without him.|||Are you still with him??? Why are you lending him money to begin with? YES you should tell him to go screw himself. I wouldn%26#039;t let him borrow any more money of he isn%26#039;t paying you back and it is certainly none of his business what you do with yours.|||leave the bastard love , been there done that get out!|||chicky? GET YOUR BUTT AWAY FROM THIS MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is showing classic signs of an abuser......He expects that you%26#039;ll %26quot;as usual%26quot; not do anything about it....get out NOW!|||Are you actually still married to this creep? Don%26#039;t tell him anything except %26quot;there%26#039;s the door%26quot;.

And don%26#039;t give him a penny more. Not a penny.|||have sex with me, just to spite him|||Yes, you should tell him...goodbye.|||Obviously you should divorce him he sounds like a total prat, tell him you want your money back or you will get some one to break his legs, failing that tell the police he stole it from you watch him squirm then lol.|||why are you still with him. he has affairs, he uses your money to pay for his affairs and to buy his present bit on the side nice stuff, then when you are skint and need your money back to pay bills he shouts at you and makes you think everything is your fault. you deserve better than this, so leave him, pay your bills and then enjoy your life. as long as you stay with him you will always be treated like a doormat so leave him.|||You are in an abusive relationship.

Sounds like you%26#039;d be better off on your own.

Maybe you should get legal advice so you can make sure you get as much money as you can in the divorce settlement.

Good luck!

Don%26#039;t put up with any more cr*p.|||No. Tell him nothing. He%26#039;s knows exactly what has happened to all your money.

He sounds like a bully, a manipulator and money pincher.

He is making you feel insecure because of his continual criticism. This will eventually wear you down and you may lose everything, your job, your house and your sanity..

Go and see a financial adviser or Citizens Advice to get your debt problems sorted out.

Then go and see a lawyer and take him for every penny you can.|||Why in the world are you still w/this man. Not only does he cheat on you, but takes your money, %26amp; ruins your credit. Put your money asided, use his to pay bills %26amp; leave him when you have enough saved up.|||you should tell your husband where to go because at the end of the day hes not really supporting you your the one supporting him, if he earns twice as much as you why is he taking money off you, you need to sit down with him an tell him if he doesnt pay all the money back then you wont give him any more, the way i see it is hes just using you for your money.|||I spend more than that on groceries per month and i live alone ffs!!

Give him a list of what he owes you as you walk out of the door.The list should be in the form of a soliciters letter i guess.

Good luck.|||let things start getting turned off and tell him he should pay to have them turned back on|||Stash your $$$ honey, and say you are paying bills that are back due. If he starts in on you, just repeat it, give him the broken record routine. No women NO WOMAN should EVER be without a stash, even if she knows she will never need it..... (You do, so start now...)|||This man is using you and being emotionally abusive and you%26#039;re allowing him to do it. Please do not enable him any longer. As long as he knows he can take advantage of you, he will be more than happy to do it. Do you have any proof that any of the money you gave him was a loan? He knows he%26#039;s in the wrong, which is why he starts getting critical and abusive with you when he%26#039;s cornered - everything is everyone else%26#039;s fault to him, people MAKE him act certain ways or do certain things. WRONG! He is responsible for his own actions. Tell him he has X amount of time to repay you. If you have proof these were loans, if he doesn%26#039;t pay you then you can file a petition against him. However, if you have no proof, consider it an expensive lesson to learn but NEVER loan him money again, and whenever he gets emotionally abusive don%26#039;t sit there and take it. He has little or no respect for you and it doesn%26#039;t sound as if you have much for yourself either. Let him know that you cannot pay your bills because of the money you%26#039;ve given him. Since you%26#039;re married, your bills are his and his are yours. Check into garnishing his wages or setting up a payment schedule for him to start paying you back. If he doesn%26#039;t, start selling or give up any extras that will allow you to have better finances. I would also suggest that you get your own separate checking/savings account that he can%26#039;t touch in any form. Good luck to you!|||Looks like he%26#039;s nothing but a taker. Why are you still with him if he%26#039;s having affairs? Stand up for yourself! If he%26#039;s cheating on you, he%26#039;ll eventually leave you for good one day and all you%26#039;ll have to show for it is a bad credit history and empty checking account! Put some of the bills in his name so that he has more financial responsibility or, perhaps, you should take over the household financial matters. Women have a place in this world, but it is most certainly not under a man%26#039;s thumb. Take control of your situation. Document where all the funds are going so there is proof you can show him the next time he points an accusing finger your direction.|||well yes yoiu should tell him|||what a d**k!...really why do you put up with him? he doesn%26#039;t deserve a woman like you who gives him cash and he expects to walk all over you and then he has the cheek to question what YOU do with what little money you have...hes a disgrace!....if i was you id gt rid of him ....he is sponging off you when clearly he has no right considering he earns 3 times what you earn...if he loved you so much he wouldn%26#039;t do this and then start walking all over you...my advice...walk away now b4 it gets worse....good luck mrs;)|||You are being abused. This is how abusers work. They kill your self-esteem and your sanity. They make you believe you are worth nothing. Get out as fast as you can.|||How about he is an A**! Tell him to get off his high horse and be a man!|||Why the bleep does he borrow money from you?

Send him packing....

Now.|||I would throw him out and tell him what i thought as I did it|||Divorce this jerk! You%26#039;re better off alone.|||Girl you need to leave his A** and find you a real man